What’s a Father Worth?

Recently, a British survey found that a dad was the 10th most common Christmas request. Then, there is this thought with reference to the horrible events of late in Newtown:

One can’t say how he might have turned out under different circumstances, but statistics show that having divorced parents, as Lanza did, plus a father who moves out of the household, remarries, and has little contact with his son for long stretches of time, is not the ideal formula for successful childrearing. Yet what sociologists call “family structure issues” were rarely discussed in the media, not even on conservative talk radio where one might have expected them to have a preeminent place. Most Americans, it seems, have so many divorced or single-parent neighbors, friends, and relatives (if they are not themselves divorced or living as single parents) that discussing family structure is simply too painful and too sensitive to be taken up in any honest or candid manner.

The thing is, moving us as a culture back toward traditional (as opposed to blended) families is a monumental and largely thankless task–which is why almost no one is calling for it. Not to mention the percentage of the population which immediately screams something about slavery and the patriarchy.

By comparison to placing fathers back into families, passing more laws and implementing further regulations on guns is easy. These laws and regulations won’t mean much and will do even less, but people will feel good about “doing something.”

Without addressing the issues of the human heart, however, we are attempting to solve the problem by squelching the symptoms.